Monica Brady Myerov<\/a>, good listening skills can advance literacy and facilitate learning. Best of all, learning how to become a better listener is easy to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\nDon’t Be Like Me<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Recently my son and I visited good friends for a weekend at their beautiful mountain home. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
After devouring the delicious dinner they had prepared for us, we lingered at the table and talked. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I love that time, don’t you? Is there anything better than sipping the last of the wine, talking with good friends, and relishing simple companionship and good conversation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My friend started to tell us an interesting story about watching a live show with knights in full armor that rode horses and participated in a jousting match. I wish I could remember where they saw the show, but I can’t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The reason I can’t remember many details about my friend’s story is because while she was talking, I was only half-listening. I was busy<\/em> thinking about my reply<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nI Can Top That Story<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
When she paused, I told her that we, too, had once attended a live jousting match. It was when we were in Anaheim during our spring break trip to Disneyland. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
We’d gone to a huge place called Medieval Times, where we had front row seats<\/em> for the match. And oh, the best part of all was that they served a dinner in which you ate everything with your hands, real medieval-style!<\/p>\n\n\n\nEven the soup was served in handled pewter bowls, I explained, so that you could drink it without a spoon! After I had shared every fascinating detail about our<\/em> live jousting match, we moved on to a new subject.<\/p>\n\n\n\nLater when I thought about our conversation, I was filled with regret over my maddening tendency to be in a hurry to talk – especially when a subject comes up that I CAN CONTRIBUTE TO, or even better, I CAN MAYBE EVEN TOP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Talking Less and Listening More<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
I wish I would have given my dear friend my full attention, and actively listened to her story. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I wish I would have asked her some questions about the match. Why were they there, and who else did they go with? Did everyone enjoy the show? Was it interesting to get that glimpse into a centuries-old sport? Did she find it exciting? Did they take pictures?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once she had taken as much time as she needed to tell me the anecdote in her own way, I wish I’d resisted the urge to share my similar tale. Next time, I hope I can be a better listener.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I want to be a friend who gives others the gift of being truly present, while listening more and talking less. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are 5 tips if you want to be a better listener, too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n